By Slade Shaw
Author of Why Men Pull Away
Learn exactly what pushes men to leave…and how to NEVER feel abandoned or rejected
3 Ways to Keep a Great Man from Running Away
Tell me if this has ever happened to you…
You’re with a man, you two have been dating a little while… and things feel amazing.
He’s attractive, kind… and something about the way he looks at you makes your heart just flutter.
And he’s so interested in taking things further… you’re already discussing future fun things to do… maybe even some weekend trips ahead.
But then… things just evaporate.
Almost overnight, he is barely responding to texts.
Short one or two-word answers.
He doesn’t ask you out again.
Within a week, you’ve been fully ghosted.
Why does this happen?
There’s a way to turn this all around, but first you have to be very clear on what not to do.
1) Don’t Be Extra Nice & Chase
If you’re a kind, nurturing woman, your first instinct might be to work harder on showing him what an amazing woman you are.
You might start texting him funny messages… or baking cookies.
Don’t get me wrong, men love home-baked cookies, but if it comes from a woman they’re not sure about, it causes them to think things like: “She’s really sweet, but…” and he starts planning his escape (maybe after a couple more cookies…).
Dr. John Gray talks about something called the “rubber band effect.”
Imagine a man and a woman are two moveable pegs with a long rubber band around them.
When the man wanders off, the rubber band gets stretched and this creates tension… and at some point, he’s propelled back to the woman and wants to spend time with her.
But if you keep chasing, it creates slack in the rubber band and keeps him running away to create more space.
2) Don’t Play Hard to Get
Now, it’s easy enough to learn not to chase a man that’s becoming distant. Once a woman realizes this, she often will say to herself “Ok… TWO can play this game!”
Then she’ll start sending shorter text messages, acting less interested… and assuming he’ll miss her and start chasing.
This can work at times, but you’re playing with explosive dice!
When you play ‘hard to get’ you run the risk of coming off cold, rude, or even flat out bitchy.
This can make a man who was already a little unsure about you to think “Well, she doesn’t even seem to like me! I guess I better find a woman who does.”
Once you realize this, it can feel like a damned-if-you-do, damned-if-you-don’t scenario… because what options are left?
3) Be Very Careful With Questions About the Relationship
When a woman realizes that chasing doesn’t work… but playing hard-to-get doesn’t either… she often ends up taking the most natural option left…
She calls him on it and asks what’s going on.
This is the kiss of death.
You may think, “Hey, men are logical, shouldn’t I straight up ask him what’s happening?”
Yes, men are logical and NO you ABSOLUTELY CANNOT ask him what’s happening …unless you are absolutely sure you are asking the question in the right way.
The reason for this is something called pressure.
Most likely, the man doesn’t even know how he’s feeling inside.
He knows he really likes you but is also questioning whether he’s ready to commit.
If you don’t ask him the RIGHT question, he will likely feel like you are putting him on the spot to decide right now.
After all, he can’t just say “I don’t know if want to be with you yet,” because that sounds too mean.
That leaves him a choice between a jumping into a pre-mature commitment or running to the hills for freedom… and when the pressure is on, a man will always choose freedom. So MAKE SURE to be very careful with questions because asking the wrong one could be a disaster.
Your One Solution:
The secret solution is to ask special indirect questions… things that make his mind ponder what it would be like to commit to you and realize that this is the romance he’s been searching for his whole life.
These special Intrigue Questions put on ZERO pressure… and gently guide him into seeing you as the rightful woman of his dreams.
It makes dating other women or “playing the field” seem like a little kid’s video game, and not something he wants anymore.
He wants to be with you… and now.
You can find out how to do this by clicking below: