By Slade Shaw
Author of Why Men Pull Away
Learn exactly what pushes men to leave…and how to NEVER feel abandoned or rejected
7 Ways To Make Him Love You Even More
Do you wish he would love you more? Show you more affection? Understand what your love language is? The old saying that you can’t make anyone love you is true.
Loving someone is an emotional feeling, one deep inside the heart and soul. For the most part, you can’t control who you fall in love with. However, there are things you can do to help the man of your dreams fall in love and stay in love with you.
Read on and I will clue you in on how you can make him love you even more than he does now.
1. Make him feel like a man
With women wanting to be treated as equals, they have learned to be independent and taught to take care of themselves.
It is a great thing to be able to change your own oil or use a power tool, but more than likely your guy doesn’t want to hear about all the ‘manly’ chores you are capable of doing.
He wants to know that he is needed. Let him repair the leaky sink even though you know you can. Ask him for his help with little projects around the house.
Men are fixers and they will appreciate you leaning on them in that respect. Give him a reason to feel like a man. It’s not about playing the damsel in distress, but it is about letting him do the things he likes to be able to do for you.
2. Support his goals
Everyone has goals and dreams they’d like to work towards fulfilling. When he tells you his, do not ridicule him or minimize his goals. They are no more or less important than yours.
His goals may differ from yours, but they are ‘his’. Be supportive, ask questions, and let him know you are interested in what he wants and dreams of accomplishing.
That doesn’t mean you have to run a marathon with him, but you can be his biggest cheerleader. Support him during his training and be there at the finish. If he wants that management position at work, let him know you believe in him.
Let him know that he is capable of doing anything he sets his mind to. Encourage and support him, as he wants to know that you are there for him and he can count on you.
3. Do not become his mother
You may notice his apartment is not as neat as yours, or perhaps he doesn’t pick up after himself at your place.
This does not give you an excuse to turn into his mother. He’s a big boy now and he doesn’t want to hear about how he left his clothes laying on the floor or forgot to replace the empty toilet paper holder.
Ask yourself if it is worth the argument or bad feelings before you snap because he didn’t put his dirty dishes in the dishwasher. You can always have a gentle conversation letting him know how you feel and maybe he will change his ways for you, but if he doesn’t it’s his prerogative. At the same time, do not do everything for him.
When you do laundry and his clothes are still in a pile on the floor, simply say, “I am doing laundry if you have
anything you want washed.” This will go farther than yelling, “You are always leaving your dirty clothes everywhere and I am not picking them up!”
4. Love without giving too much
By nature, women are givers. They tend to give more than they receive and then get sad when they are not treated the same way. It’s alright to give, but don’t give so much that you make him sick.
You will come across as the overprotective mother who spoils her kid rotten because she’d go crazy without his approval.
5. Do not be clingy, jealous, or controlling
You both had a life prior to meeting one another. You have your friends and he has his. Throwing a fit when he wants to go play golf with his buddies or watch the big game will push him away.
Jealousy is an evil demon that has ruined many relationships. If you do not trust him to spend an afternoon or evening with his friends, then you may want to reevaluate the relationship.
If you can’t stand the thought of being apart from him for an evening as he watches the football game, you are showing insecurity, which is a sure way to send him walking. Telling him what he can and cannot do is a huge mistake. Let him know you are secure in the relationship and that you trust him.
6. Communicate with him
Men and women think differently, act differently, and react differently. Accept that he is not you and you are not him. What is important to you may not be so much to him.
Instead of accusing him that he doesn’t understand you or support you, simply have an honest conversation. Mature communication is a huge relationship maker or breaker.
7. Be yourself
He must have seen something in you that he liked to ask you out in the first place. Try not to put on an air or act in a way you think he wants you to.
Be yourself and be happy with who you are. People want to be around positive and happy people, not those who complain about how bad their lives are.
Don’t play the ‘woe is me’ card. Laugh, have fun, believe in yourself and in your man.
I hope these tips help you to see how you can make your man love you even more than he does now. There is always room for improvement in relationships, so getting informed on ways you can contribute to a healthier relationship is wonderful.
Here’s to an even better relationship!
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