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The Secret Shortcut to a Man’s Heart

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By Mirabelle Summers
Author of Get A Great Guy Guide

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The Secret Shortcut to a Man’s Heart

Today I’m going to be sharing with you the SECRET shortcut to making a guy fall in love with you. But first, I have to warn you: this may feel unnatural.

It may feel scary and go against all of your intuitive feminine instincts.

But it works – I promise.

The secret shortcut to a man’s heart is: to let him IN, you first have to set him FREE.

Let me explain.

Men are extremely independent by nature. They like to live by their own rules and make their own decisions.

They CRAVE freedom.

One of guys biggest fears in dating is that a relationship will take AWAY all of their freedom.

A guy may have seen a woman enter one of his best buddies lives, only to find that 6 months down the track his friend is no longer turning up to golf or boys nights, AND he is selling the motorbike he used to ride every weekend.

‘No way is that happening to me’, he thinks to himself.

And as a result, the minute he senses a woman starting to organize his schedule or question how much time he spends with the guys, he leaves her without looking back.

The thing is, a man already has so many demanding responsibilities and obligations in his everyday life – don’t we all? So the LAST thing he wants is to feel that he is coming home to yet another obligation.

Obligation is like the DEATH of freedom. It’s the difference between HAVING to do something and WANTING to do something.

Obviously, the OPPOSITE of what any woman wishes to do is push the guy she likes away.

But we women have our own feminine instincts. Rather than craving freedom, we crave emotional closeness and CONNECTION. And naturally, we want to pull our men closer to us – and keep them close.

So to try to satisfy our needs for love and reassurance, we look for signs like how much time our man is spending with us, and how much he prioritizes us over other people and things in his life.

And often if we feel that we aren’t being given ENOUGH time and attention, we complain about it.

When instead, we should really be exercising the SECRET shortcut to a man’s heart.

In order to win your man’s heart forever, you have to BECOME his source of freedom!

So rather than asking yourself how you can get a guy to commit to you, ask yourself how you can build up the passion and excitement between the two of you so that he will never WANT to leave.

Make it never feel like an obligation to spend time with you. You have the POWER to create a space of passion, fun, excitement, warmth and affection.

Be the warm haven he wants to ESCAPE to at the end of the day.

Let him have freedom and space to be himself, and show your respect and admiration for everything he does.

Let him lead his life the way he wants to and be sure to have your OWN life as well.

Set him free… so that he can CHOOSE to make his way back to you.

When we love something, it is never an obligation. And when a guy feels completely unrestricted, he will make a far more amazing partner.

He will be more loving and affectionate, a better listener, less distractible, and closer to you than he has EVER allowed himself to be with anyone before.

A man who has a great relationship PLUS a strong sense of personal freedom will feel like the cat who got the cream. And you can be sure that he will KEEP coming back for that cream…

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Top 3 Ways To Make Him Love You Like Crazy

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By Slade Shaw
Author of Why Men Pull Away

Why Men Push Away Their ‘Perfect Girl

Are you finding it difficult to fall for that perfect guy you ever wanted? Does your heart full of love and affection for him, and you don’t know how to show it? If that is your case, keep reading to know the ways to make him feel an intense, burning desire for you and love you like crazy.

Top 3 Ways To Make Him Love You Like Crazy

#1. Win Him Over With Words

Great relationship happens when a couple has the habit of communicating in a nice, loving manner.

That’s the reason why a guy is more likely to respond positively to a woman who recognizes his strengths and celebrates them through words of affirmation. For example, you can compliment him on how great he looks on his new shirt, or even just the way he remembers all that Star Wars trivia.

Whatever qualities that you love about him, make sure to acknowledge that and point it out to him.

#2. Work Your Way Into His Life

Some women assume that guys want to sleep with a girl as fast as they can. But in my own experience, I found that you’re more likely to pull him in by being friends with him.

I know that sounds scary because this might get you banished into the Friend Zone. But the idea here is to not hop in the sack with him right away and draw it out a bit.

Believe it or not, many guys love the sweet torture of a “slow burn”. If you play it right, you can keep up this dance until his desire reaches a point where he can’t stand being ‘just friends’ with you.
He’ll want to take things to the next level.

#3. Use The Right Body Language

Have you ever noticed how some couples just seem to complement each other? I’m talking about the way they finish each other’s sentences or already know what the other is thinking without saying a single word.

You can see this common quality in happy couples, whether it’s your best friend and her husband or your 90-year old grandparents’. They just seem to connect on a deep, unspoken level.

In order to emulate that quality and set the stage for you and your guy, you can start with body language.

Of course, a long-term relationship requires you to develop a bond through shared experiences and the like. But matching his facial expressions, for instance, is a great way to lay down the foundations.

For example, if you’re out on a date with him and he’s having a good time, he’s likely to have a happy, satisfied expression on his gorgeous face.

What you can do is match the brightness of his smile and instantly, that will allow you to create an emotional connection with him. It’s nothing short of magical, and it will certainly feel that way.

When you start doing these things today, you can start putting your relationship on a better path. Treat these as habits you can adopt into your daily routine, like making deposits in a bank.

Pretty soon, your relationship will be rich with love and you’ll have plenty of it to go around for years to come.

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But did you know that you can also say a few select phrases to a guy and make him instantly fall in love with you even HARDER? It sounds crazy, but there’s a combination of words that can literally change a man’s emotional state and generate red-hot feelings of passion for you.

The truth is that it’s based on an obscure psychological principle. Any woman can apply this through a combination of certain words that will create a powerful effect on the way he thinks about you.

If you’re ready for this kind of commitment, however, you can learn the secrets to this technique right here:

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Audio Podcast: Creating Emotional Intimacy with Your Man

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Secret Ingredient That Will Keep Him From Straying

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By Mirabelle Summers
Author of Get A Great Guy Guide

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Secret Ingredient That Will Keep Him From Straying

A recent survey by Men’s Health of over 1000 women found that the number ONE trait women are looking for in a guy is faithfulness – with over 80% of women agreeing to this.

And it’s no wonder why having a man who is faithful is so important to us.

Biologically, we need men who will stick around to care for us and our offspring. And even in modern times, being cheated on can leave us in a considerable state of pain, hardship and distrust.

We all want to believe that a guy will happily remain faithful to us over the long haul.

But in a world where rates of adultery and divorce are alarmingly high, and there is a never-ending stream of gorgeous young women in tight skirts inviting the male eye to wander, it can be easy for anxiety to creep in.

The great news is, research has recently highlighted how a naturally-occurring hormone called oxytocin can act as the SECRET ingredient to keeping a man’s eyes, heart and mind focused on the woman he loves.

The powerful role of oxytocin:

Oxytocin is a hormone that is involved in sparking attraction between romantic partners and attachment between children and parents.

It is known as the ‘cuddle hormone’ because one of the main ways in which it is produced is through physical touch, such as when you and your partner cuddle, kiss, hold-hands or have sex.

Oxytocin creates those addictively feel-good emotions of warmth, comfort and closeness that you want to keep going back to. It helps to keep feelings of love and affection alive in a relationship, even after the initial stage of infatuation is over.

And an amazing study recently published in The Journal of Neuroscience has now shown that oxytocin actually leads men in committed relationships to avoid being physically close to other attractive women.

In the study, researchers asked 57 men (both single and in relationships) to sniff a nasal spray that either contained oxytocin or a placebo. The men were then asked to approach an attractive woman and to stop at a comfortable distance away.

Results showed that the men in relationships who had been exposed to oxytocin stood farther away from the attractive woman than those who were exposed to the placebo. In comparison, exposure to oxytocin had hardly any effects on the behavior of single men.

Dirk Steele, one of the leading researchers in the study, suggested that oxytocin may help to make the experience of being in love more addictive and rewarding by interacting with other ‘feel good’ brain chemicals.

So increased oxytocin levels can actually make a ‘taken’ guy feel closer and more attached to his other half, even when she’s not physically with him.

And as a result, this influences him to put physical distance between himself and attractive women – thereby helping him to remain faithful.

Obviously, this is a GREAT sign for every woman in a relationship or hoping to be in one. But I’m sure the question you’re all asking right now is; “So how do I increase my man’s levels of oxytocin?”

Luckily, I have some answers.

Ways that you can naturally increase your man’s (and your own!) oxytocin levels:

Make lots of deep eye contact

When we make deep eye contact with someone we love, oxytocin is released into our bloodstream.

So make sure that whenever you are having a conversation with your man or are spending an intimate moment together, you are giving him your full attention and making lots of deep, dreamy eye contact.

Give him tender massages

Research has indicated that a gentle massage does wonders for boosting oxytocin levels. And everyone loves a good back rub, right?

So offer to give your man a shoulder rub after a stressful day at work, or give him a full-body massage as a slow and sexy foreplay.

Get busy between the sheets

Oxytocin is released in large quantities in both men and women at the point of orgasm, making sex one of the most intense bonding experiences.

And it doesn’t just stop at the big ‘O’. Foreplay, sexual caressing and post-lovemaking cuddles are also times in which oxytocin will be flowing.

So if you want to cause a big spike in your man’s ‘cuddle hormone’, simply spend more time getting hot between the sheets.

Cuddle, smooch & hold hands

Spoon with your guy in bed before you fall asleep. Cuddle on the couch when you’re watching TV. Give him a kiss before you leave in the morning. Hold hands when you’re out in public.

All of these types of physical affection will boost your oxytocin levels and help to keep the chemistry alive in your relationship.

Share mealtimes

There are two reasons why shared mealtimes are a great way of increasing oxytocin.

Firstly, oxytocin is released in the body during digestion. So the more you cook with your man and share mealtimes together, the more he’ll associate you with the good feelings he gets from these experiences.

Secondly, mealtimes are a great opportunity for bonding, as they give you a chance to spend time with your man, talk and make that attraction-sparking eye contact. So use this time to connect with your other half and enjoy each other’s company.

Trigger loving thoughts

Although intimate contact is the biggest trigger for oxytocin release, even simply thinking about your partner can cause oxytocin to start flowing.

So do sweet, naughty little things to help keep your man’s mind on you even when you’re apart. Send him a text during the workday telling him about the sexy daydream you’ve been having, or how you can’t wait to see him later.

This is bound to get his imagination and love hormones flowing. Just don’t go too overboard – one intimate text during the day is a whole lot better for sparking affection and excitement than a long, drawn-out conversation.

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Why Being Vulnerable Is The Key To Unlocking Intimacy

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By Mirabelle Summers
Author of Get A Great Guy Guide

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Why Being Vulnerable Is The Key To Unlocking Intimacy

Have you ever wondered what it takes for a guy to tip over the edge and fall in love with a woman?

It seems that the key to getting under a guy’s skin (in a good way) is letting your guard down around him.

In fact, when an attractive woman becomes emotionally naked with a man, it’s just as powerfully irresistible to him as if she appeared in front of him physically naked.

Although this time, it is his heart that can’t do the resisting.

Because when a woman is vulnerable around a guy, it unlocks his instincts to protect her and creates a safe space for him to also let HIS guard down.

And once a guy feels safe and secure enough to simply be himself around a woman (along with all of his insecurities and imperfections), his heart will be hers.

Even though being vulnerable can sometimes put your heart out in the firing line, it is a risk well worth taking. Because in the end it will lead to the intimacy and desire you have always craved.

What does it mean to be vulnerable?

Often people immediately associate vulnerability with being weak or submissive. But this is not the case – showing your true self to others actually takes a great amount of courage.

In a way, vulnerability is like being emotionally ‘naked’. We are stripping away the pretenses and revealing our true, imperfect selves to others – rather than trying to be something we’re not to impress them.

It means that you accept yourself completely as you are, imperfections and all. You are brave enough to share your true feelings and needs with others, even when there is no guarantee that you will gain a positive response.

You can accept the fact that other people have every right to choose not to meet your needs, and sometimes getting hurt is a potential risk.

At the same time, you realize that being vulnerable is a necessary part of falling in love and being loved back. You can invest in a relationship, even when you know that it may not work out.

Why do we fear being vulnerable in relationships?

The main reason people fear being vulnerable with others is that they are terrified of being rejected.

Because unfortunately, getting rejected or getting your heart broken is sometimes a real risk that comes with opening up to someone. For instance, when you ask someone out or attempt to initiate sex with your partner.

Often people try to avoid being truly vulnerable with others in these situations by using means such as alcohol to ‘take the edge off’, or communicating by phone or social media to maintain physical distance from someone they like.

But by doing this, people are also avoiding true connection, joy and happiness. In fact, the only way to truly connect with another person’s soul is to take the risk and let yourself be vulnerable with them – completely as you are.

So the very thing that people often try to avoid is really the key to gaining the connection and intimacy they crave.

Another reason people fear being vulnerable is that they don’t want to come across as being ‘needy’ and scare potential partners away.

But there is a key difference between someone being vulnerable with another and someone being needy.

Being vulnerable is about being your true self and open with others about your feelings and needs, even though you accept that you might not always get the outcome you desire. And if that person chooses not to meet your need, you are able to soothe yourself back into a positive frame of mind.

On the other hand, being needy involves asking someone to meet your needs, but grounding your sense of esteem and happiness on their response.

So if that person chooses not to accept your request (e.g. chooses not to go out with you), you will be devastated and unable to cope.

This is because a needy person is not able to self-soothe when they are rejected, as they allow their self-esteem to be determined by external rather than internal sources.

So the main point of difference here is that while vulnerability is driven by bravery, self-love and inner strength, neediness is driven by weakness, fear and an inability to cope alone.

Why are men attracted to vulnerable women?

I’m sure you’ve all heard before about how neediness turns a guy off – no man wants to deal with a woman who is constantly relying on him for emotional support and reassurance.

And above we made the crucial distinction between being vulnerable and being needy. Now it’s time to go into WHY vulnerability is so very disarming and attractive to a guy.

The truth is, often trying to impress a guy by trying too hard to appear intelligent, funny, seductive or competent actually ends up having the opposite effect to what a woman is wanting – he can instantly tell that she is being fake.

When a women opens up to a guy and shows who she truly is, she is able to connect with him in a way no-one may have before.

When it comes to looking for a relationship partner (as opposed to a one night stand or casual fling), men are drawn to women who are down-to-earth, real and not afraid to be themselves.

Why? Men fear being vulnerable even more than women do. But a woman is open and vulnerable it gives a guy the space to be the same around her.

And a man will never feel more comfortable than when he is with a woman who he can be completely vulnerable with, and not have to constantly act like he has everything under control.

Although most guys would never admit to it, being a guy can be a lot of pressure, and many man have hidden performance anxiety in areas such as their career, athletic pursuits, social life and sex.

Being around a woman he can be close with and not have to try to impress is very soothing – feeling that she accepts him for his true imperfect self, just as he accepts her.

Never underestimate the powerful force of a man’s instinct to protect the woman he loves.

Being vulnerable around your man means giving him chances to take charge and look after you when you need it. It also means not being afraid to ask for his help and to share your fears.

This doesn’t mean that you should act helpless around your man, but it does mean letting him in, in order to find the intimacy and closeness you crave.

Having the chance to take care of you in a vulnerable moment and feeling your appreciation will make him feel like a million bucks. And if he feels like Superman in your eyes, his heart will be yours.

How will being vulnerable enrich your relationship?

According to top vulnerability researcher Brene Brown (as seen on TED), people who allow themselves to be vulnerable with others have a strong sense of love and belonging in their lives, as it allows them to deeply connect with others.

Being able to be vulnerable with each other is the key to a healthy and meaningful relationship. Because without vulnerability, a relationship will remain shallow and superficial – never being able to grow beyond a certain point.

It’s only human that you need to feel safe with a guy before you let yourself be vulnerable with him. But once you feel this way around him, take a leap of faith and allow yourself to lower your guard.

Let him in to the real you. Tell him what you truly want and need from him and be open to his responses.

When you are open to one another’s true desires and choose to meet one another’s needs, your levels of intimacy will reach new heights. You will each feel loved, nurtured and accepted in a way more complete than you have ever felt.

How can you start becoming more vulnerable with the man you desire?

When we have been hurt in the past, we often put up barriers around ourselves for our own protection. This can make it really hard for us to let our guard down, even with a guy we really like.

However, it is possible to break down those walls you have built up and allow yourself to become more vulnerable with your man. Start taking these small steps below:

• Start to question your thoughts and fears. The next time you feel afraid of opening up to a guy, question whether you are worried about something that is actually likely to happen, or whether you are just imagining the worst.

• When out on a date, answer your date’s questions honestly. Be yourself, rather than what you think he might want you to be. Because you are enough, just as you are.

• If you’ve been seeing a guy you really like and neither one of you has talked about your feelings, be the first one to do it. If he feels the same way, you will have created a safe space for him to share his feelings with you. And if he doesn’t, then at least you’ll know for sure where he stands and won’t waste any more time with a guy who isn’t as interested as you are.

• Learn how to self-soothe. Although becoming more vulnerable will open you up to love and connection, unfortunately it also means being more open to the risk of your desires being rejected by others.

And when this happens, you need to be able to accept their decision and soothe your hurt feelings. Remember, a key difference in being vulnerable versus being needy is that you take responsibility for your own sense of esteem and happiness.

So be strong and find healthy ways to heal and cheer yourself up. Because the next opportunity will be just around the corner.

• Make life decisions based on what feels right to you, rather than what you think others might want or expect. Start living a live that is true to yourself.

• Focus on the present. By appreciating what is currently happening in your life, you will feel less afraid of what might or might not happen in the future. This means letting go of expectations and trying not to let your mind wander off into the land of “What ifs”.

• If you are in a relationship and want to take things to the next level (e.g. moving in together), choose to share your true desires and needs with your man, even though there is the risk that he may not feel the same way. Only by putting yourself out there are you open to his response.

• Ask your man for his help when you need it. Don’t feel that you need to handle everything on your own. You will probably find that he is more than willing to lend a hand or some advice, and this will only bring you closer together.

• When you are in a trusting and committed relationship, vow to love your partner and all of his imperfections with your whole heart, even when there are no guarantees that it will last.

Taking these steps to become more vulnerable in your love life may feel scary, but with time it will get easier. And with increased vulnerability, the more your life will become enriched with love and connection.

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Audio Podcast: Is He Your Soulmate? What Men Desire in a relationship

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He is going to be sharing with us today his INCREDIBLE inside advice on how to know if a guy is truly ‘The ONE’ for you.

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The 4 “Bad” Qualities to Look for in Guys You Date

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By James Bauer
Author of The Secret Love Instinct

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The 4 “Bad” Qualities to Look for in Guys You Date

So there you are. He just picked you up for the first date.

You make small talk as you head to the restaurant. Nothing deep. Just typical getting-to-know-you banter. It’s going well . . . and then IT happens.

Another car cuts him off.

He pumps the brakes, easily avoiding an accident. It’s no big deal, really. It wasn’t even much of a close call. But he unleashes a tirade of expletives that would make a sailor blush.

He’s cussing with more imagination and passion than you thought possible. You didn’t even know THAT word could be a noun, a verb, and an adjective in the same sentence. If it weren’t so shocking, it would be impressive.

That level of irrational anger probably is a red flag. But here’s something interesting I recently read about people with colorful language.

A recent study uncovered an unlikely correlation between swearing and honesty. According to researchers, there’s a potential upside to profanity. People who curse more tend to be more honest, as well.

Of course, a foul mouth can also be offensive. I’m not telling you to run right out and find a guy who relies on four-letter words for all his communication. But this does highlight an interesting paradox.

Some character traits we think of as “bad” could actually be signs of virtue.

I’ll take it one step further. There may be guys you’ve turned down because you saw something you think of as a flaw. But what if that negative was a positive in disguise?

Below are four “bad” qualities that just might signify something good about a potential suitor. If you come across a guy with one of these traits, get to know him a little better before sending the signal that you’re not interested.

#1. Messy

He’s a slob. His clothes are always wrinkled. His cubical at work looks like a small tornado hit it. You heard there are parts of his apartment that have been designated as “unchartered territory.”

Okay, so it’s not an attractive quality, but it’s not necessarily a bad sign, either.

Messy people tend to be more creative. They’re also more inclined to take risks. Sure, you might have to teach him how to do the dishes, but he’ll always be down for an adventure.

#2. Shy

Shy guys get a bad rap. Because they’re timid, they may come off as cowardly. But that’s not necessarily the case.

Many shy people are simply more reserved. Rather than declaring themselves the life of the party, they prefer to observe.

Translate that to boyfriend-mode, and you’ve got one really good listener on your hands. If you’ve ever pined for a man who knows how to have a real, meaningful conversation, a shy guy might be just what you’re looking for.

#3. Cocky

On the opposite end of the spectrum are men who live their lives with undeniable swagger. That guy who waltzed in like he owned the place? Yeah. He’s one of them.

Some women dig on cocky men. Others find them arrogant and annoying. If you’re in the second group, I’d like to point out something important.

The line between arrogance and confidence is thin. When you first meet someone, it’s difficult to tell the difference. Hold off on passing judgment until you’re absolutely sure his strut is something more than self-assurance.

#4. Selfish

Selfishness is rarely seen as a virtue, and for good reason. If a guy’s only going to think of himself, he’s probably not great boyfriend material.

However, I frequently advise women to indulge in a healthy amount of selfishness. There’s nothing wrong with taking care of yourself. In fact, strong, well-adjusted people know their own needs and make sure they’re met.

Just because he’s invested in his own fulfillment doesn’t mean he won’t be committed to yours, too, when you become a part of his life.

With each of these four traits, there are no guarantees. And really, that’s the point.

Don’t automatically assume a guy who’s messy, shy, cocky or selfish would make for a poor romantic fit. Get to know him before you make that call. In each case, what looks like a weakness might turn out to be a strength.

After all, one of the keys to lasting romance is seeing past the surface. Why not start that process at the very beginning?

Prince charming may not make the best first impression, but that doesn’t mean he won’t end up sweeping you off your feet in the long run.

The #1 Trait Men Desire in a Woman

Is He Really a “Commitment-Phobe”?

I hear this word thrown around all the time when women talk to me about their relationship troubles.

They always ask something along the lines of, “Why do guys always seem amazing at first, then instantly do a 180 when things get serious?”

It’s cases like these that make most women think that men are wired to run for the hills when they hear the C-word. But the truth is that guys aren’t the commitment-phobes they’re made out to be.

Men are in fact more than willing and able to commit when the right womancomes along.

And it boils down to having a hidden quality that women already have. It’s just a matter of using it to unlock a guy’s heart and make him yours.

I’ve seen this amazing change happen in a lot of couples, specifically with the guy. It’s like a dam bursting with a torrent of emotions he can’t contain.

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Audio Podcast: Bouncing Back From Rejection

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Have you ever struggled to pick yourself up off the ground after you have experienced a painful break up or rejection? Unfortunately, I think all too many of us know how this feels!

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Today Matthew is going to be explaining how you can BOUNCE BACK from rejection and make yourself immediately MORE ATTRACTIVE to men.

Matthew tells it like it is and gives us advice we ALL need to hear after a break-up or rejection.

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How To Avoid Relationship Burnout

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By James Bauer
Author of The Secret Love Instinct

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How To Avoid Relationship Burnout

When you want something—a relationship, a job, a goal—you put your all into it.

You don’t stop. You keep going until you’ve got what you wanted.

That should be good, right? It means you’re focused. Dedicated. An achiever.

But it also puts you in danger.

Working too hard on anything puts you at risk of burnout. And that includes relationships.

Relationship burnout happens when you put 110% into your love life.

You’re so focused on getting a date or strengthening your relationship that you miss the big picture. Your world revolves around your love life.

If you’re feeling close and connected, you want to feel even closer and more connected. If you’re going through a rough patch, your relationship stays on your mind until you’ve figured out how to fix it.

And why not?

Surely relationships deserve that kind of attention.

If you love someone, you want to give him everything. If you don’t have someone yet, then surely you shouldn’t rest until you do.

But a funny thing happens when you focus on something to the exclusion of everything else:

You start to hate it.

Even if it’s something you love, it consumes your attention until it becomes a source of great frustration.

A friend of mine never does online dating for more than a few months at a time. She says that she starts to hate it if she does it for any longer. Instead of seeing it as something fun, it becomes a chore.

That resentment starts to bleed through into how she responds to the men who contact her.

So, for their sake as well as hers, she keeps her dips into the online dating pool short and sweet.

When I suggest this approach to other women, they counter it with, “But what if I miss out on someone great because I’m not online?”

It’s true. If you take a break—whether it’s a break from online dating or a break from an intense relationship—you do run the risk of missing out.

You might miss out on some extra fun you might have had otherwise.

But it’s worth it, and here’s why.

When you’re completely focused on just one aspect of your life, whether that’s work or relationships, you neglect other areas of your life that are equally important.

We’ve all heard of someone who’d put in such long hours at work that his or her health was affected. Or the woman who fell for a guy and never saw her friends again.

Friends, family, health, and hobbies all deserve some part of your time and energy. You can’t maintain healthy relationships with friends and family if you won’t leave your beloved’s side.

It’s counterintuitive, but taking a break from something you really enjoy ensures you’ll keep on enjoying it.

When you’re having a great time in a relationship, it’s tempting to spend as much time as possible together to maximize the pleasure. But this can backfire.

Spending too much time together hastens disillusionment. Something inside you starts to push back against him, perhaps because your identity is at risk of being taken over entirely.

You know you’re more than his girlfriend. You need your own friends, your own space, and time to do the things you love.

When you take a break from each other—even if it’s just a weekend where you do your own separate things—you come back to the relationship refreshed. You rediscover one another all over again.

I’ve often noticed how women can panic in the early days of a relationship if their guy is out of contact for too long. They worry he’s lost interest. I encourage them to see that time as a gift.

Having a break from each other means you’ll enjoy each other even more when you finally see each other again.

Breaks intensify the pleasure.

But it’s hard to take those breaks. We live in a culture where everything has to be fast. Few people are willing to put in, say, a year getting to know someone before deciding if they want a relationship.

Love’s timeline has speeded up. If he waits more than an hour before responding to your text message, you wonder what is wrong.

Having a balanced life means taking things slowly. If a few weeks go by before your next date, that’s okay. You’ve got other things going on. Your life needs you.

It’s the fear of scarcity that leads us to want to lock in a good thing as fast as possible, to ensure we don’t lose it.

Don’t let that fear drive you to burn out.

Take it easy. Take a breather every now and again. Trust that you won’t lose what was meant for you.

A guy who won’t wait isn’t worth waiting for.

How To Keep The Flames Burning

It’s natural for the passion to wane a little over time. Feelings come and go, and couples will go through this stage at some point in the relationship.

But that doesn’t mean however that you should just let this phase run its course. Unchecked, it could create a permanent gap between you and your man.

In time, it might lead to an emotional chasm and you’ll end up becoming strangers to each other.

But it’s actually not that hard to keep things hot and heavy between you two. There is a way to turn up the heat again and help your man rediscover his red-hot passion for you.

Think of it as a Relationship Reboot. All you need to do is use your Feminine Love Instinct to kickstart the whole process.

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If We’re Right for Each Other, Why Do We Fight?

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By James Bauer
Author of The Secret Love Instinct

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If We’re Right for Each Other, Why Do We Fight?

If love disappears in a fight, does that mean you’re not right for each other?

If you’re deeply in love with someone and a fight breaks out, it can feel like you’ve become mortal enemies.

On top of the anger and frustration you feel, fear takes hold. Where did all those good feelings go?

Love didn’t go anywhere. It’s just temporarily over-shadowed by the conflicting emotions of the immediate situation.

That’s the nature of fights. They’re intense.

Even when conflict erupts over something small or silly, it can feel like it’s the end of the world. Both of you focus almost exclusively on whatever you’re fighting about.

This is totally normal.

The same thing happens when you allocate all of your focus to anything else. When you’re hard at work, that doesn’t mean your family and friends no longer matter or cease to exist.

Still, you may go hours without thinking of them because you’re zeroed in on the task at hand. It’s purely a matter of focus.

Likewise, fights tend to bring our fears, insecurities and even past pain to the surface. Those are some powerful feelings. Powerful enough that virtually all of your attention locks on them.

Of course, you still love him and he still loves you, that reality doesn’t evaporate just because there’s conflict. But you may not feel it in the middle of a fight.

The key thing to remember is that love is much more than a feeling. It’s something far deeper.

What’s more, it’s not something outside of you that you have to chase after. It’s something inside of you that you nurture.

Couple upset but still in love. Don’t freak out when the feeling of love seem to disappear in the middle of an argument. Instead, try to focus on resolution.

Keep in mind, this will be hard because you’ll want to focus on those feelings of anger, fear, and pain. Acknowledge them, share them, and then push past them to find some common ground.

When the conflict ends, remember that love is an active choice. It’s something that starts inside of you.

There is no need to fret over those times when you don’t feel love. Every committed relationship goes through that. Worrying about it will only distract you from the joy you might otherwise feel.

Instead, focus on choosing love. After all, the ability we have to generate love with those we care about is powerful. Harness that power as often as you can.

The funny thing is that some relationships just flow naturally, while others struggle. And I’m not talking about fighting or arguments.

A lot of women wonder why their man is holding back a part of himself. They can’t quite put their finger on it, but they can tell he’s hesitating to “go all in” in some way.

The tough part is bringing it up. Most women are afraid to even broach the subject because they know how much guys dread The Talk.

Instead, they keep it to themselves so they don’t rock the boat, so to speak. But then he continues to stonewall and pulls away even further.

It seems like a lose-lose situation, doesn’t it?

But there is a way to completely avoid this trap altogether. A huge part of it has to do with a hidden quality that women already have.

Surprisingly though, they aren’t even aware that it exists.

I’ve put together a free presentation that talks about what I call the Feminine Love Instinct. This quality alone is the key to having a solid, committed relationship.

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